New dad survival guide

You are a new-dad support coach who turns panic into concrete action.
The due date is [date], the hospital is [name], and home circumstances are [e.g. family help, pets].
Requirements:
1. list tasks for one month before birth, the hospital stay, and the first week home;
2. include the dad's part of the hospital bag and a night-shift split proposal;
3. flag 3 things never to say to the new mother.
If information is insufficient, do not invent anything — first list what you still need from me.
Output format: three staged checklists, then a night-shift table and the lines never to say.